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Perhaps there is some truth in the semi-joking expression that all men are from Mars, and all women are from Venus, because in the life of every man there was at least one case when he did not understand what a representative of the fair sex wanted to tell him. And it seems that the woman speaks Russian, and constructs phrases correctly, and all her words individually are understandable to a man, but what she wants to say, what meaning she puts into her words, is not clear. And if this woman was a stranger, that’s not so bad, but if a guy misunderstands his girlfriend, he can seriously quarrel with her.

They say and do a lot of things that leave us scratching our heads. For example, when they say, “Whatever happens.” What could this mean, what do they think? It's such a vague reaction to things. It seems like there could be a thousand different reasons they're talking, and none of them sound appealing.

Well, you'd be right if you think so. It has a lot of unattractive meanings behind it, but it doesn't have a thousand of them. In fact, there seem to be several things that make a woman say, "Whatever happens." The most common reason women use this word is because they are harboring some bad feelings about you right now. Resentment, disappointment and rage are often terrible reasons that force her to say this word. She will say this in a rather unpleasant tone.

Of course, all girls are different, and they behave differently in communication and in relationships, but there are some phrases that, under certain conditions, every representative of the fair sex is likely to say. Knowing these popular phrases of girls and their interpretation, you will be able to better understand the fair sex, and you will also know what a girl wants to hear when uttering this or that phrase. Let's consider the most common and popular phrases of girls and their interpretation, and also determine what should and should not be said in response to these expressions.

A tone that says there is something that is bothering her. This is often said through clenched teeth or done with great emphasis. This may be because you didn't follow up on what she expected. Did you forget to do what she asked? Or did you not remember something important?

Sometimes she would say anything as a response to these things. This means that she is not happy with the outcome of the situation. She may refrain from talking to you for a while after, but usually she won't be angry with you for long then. Especially if you offer to correct any mistake you made or at least give some kind of apology that lets her know that you're sorry for making her feel this way in the first place.

Girl's phrase "Oh that's it"

The phrase "Oh that's it!" became popular relatively recently precisely thanks to the World Wide Web - both girls and guys began to use this expression when they need to quickly end a boring argument or chat. Very quickly, the phrase “Oh, that’s it” began to be used not only on the Internet, but also in real communication, and this expression can be heard especially often from a girl during an argument or conversation on a topic that is uninteresting to her.

Stressing her out will make her say something rude. She can't even tell, but her frustration might win over and make her say it anyway. This is a reactionary response that is commonly experienced by anyone who is upset about something. Both men and women seem to have this reaction. There aren't really any statistics to say which sex says this word angrily more, but we do know that many men hear it from women.

There are certain cases where a woman says everything because she doesn't want you around her anymore. She will say this after you say something to her. She can automatically say this when she is startled by a stranger. She pretty much says: Whatever!

The meaning of the phrase. Having heard from your beloved, friend or random interlocutor “Oh, that’s it,” know that this phrase, depending on the context of the situation, can mean the following:

"I'm tired of arguing with you on this topic"
"Each of us will still have our own opinion"
“How long can we talk about this?”
“I’m not interested in hearing your story/opinion about this.”

Obviously, none of the meanings of the girl’s phrase “Oh, that’s it” can be called positive, therefore, having heard this expression, you need to give the correct answer to it, and not “add fuel to the fire” and provoke the development of a conflict.

Even if she doesn't say that last part out loud. When someone feels uncomfortable with someone else, they don't always say that. Instead, they resort to being a little sketchy and vague by using the term "everything." She may simply not want to share personal information with you, especially if she doesn't know you. Her The best way coping with this situation is to make yourself appear more hostile and uninteresting in the hope that you will leave her alone.

Pay attention to her body language. Is she really refusing to contact you? These are usually good indicators that she is trying to avoid talking to you. Sometimes when a girl says this phrase, it doesn't mean anything terrible at all. However, this means that she is not interested in what is happening or being discussed.

Correct answer. So that the girl doesn’t get offended, it’s best to respond to her “Oh, that’s it” something like this:

“Okay, let's not argue over trifles. Let's talk about something more interesting.”
“Each of us is right in our own way. Let’s leave this topic, tell us better how your day was/what are your plans for tomorrow, etc.”
“Yes, it doesn’t matter. But today I saw/learned/invented...”

Incorrect answer. If your girlfriend or girlfriend tells you “Oh, that’s it,” do not answer her the following (unless, of course, you want to quarrel with her):

This often happens if you asked her where she wants to eat and she doesn't care where you're going. This could also be what she says when you ask her what kind of coffee she wants and so on. Usually, if she says this in response to a question that requires her to make a decision, it means she simply doesn't care. This doesn't mean she's upset.

The girl's phrase "What are you thinking about?"

This is a little less common, but is still a reason that she might tell you about the terms in response to something you said. She may be exhausted from a long day or just returned from a trip. This is the reason why she doesn't have the brainpower to respond to you with an actual proposal. She may need some time to regain her energy before talking about anything.

"Are the arguments over?"
"All you girls say 'Oh that's it' when you have nothing of substance to say"
"No, not everything! Listen further..."

Phrase girl "As you want"

Are you familiar with the situation when you ask a girl something, ask for her opinion, and she answers with the short phrase “As you wish”? If yes, then you are also familiar with the bewilderment caused by this answer, because it is not at all clear whether the girl is really inviting you to find a solution yourself or whether she is offended by something.

The meaning of the phrase. A girl’s phrase “As you wish” can have different interpretations, and you need to pay attention to the situation and the reason for which this phrase was said. Depending on the situation, the expression “As you wish” can mean:

"I don't care, decide for yourself"
“I have it now and I don’t want to talk about anything.”
"I'm not entirely sure I want this, but let's try."
“I previously expressed my opinion on this issue to you 100 times, but if you still haven’t heard me, I don’t see the point in repeating it 101 times, so do as you want.”

Correct answer. Any relationship, and especially love, should be built on trust and mutual understanding, so it is better to make important decisions together, taking into account the opinions and wishes of both. Therefore, if a girl says “As you wish,” it is better to still try to find out her opinion by answering her the following:

"It's important for me to know what you think about this"
"If you're not in the mood to discuss this issue now, let's talk about it later."

Incorrect answer. In order not to get into a quarrel out of nowhere, in response to “As you wish,” it is better not to say:

"I see you don't care about me"
“Yes, actually, I was going to do as I wanted.”
"Then I don't care either"

Girl's phrase "I won't be offended"

Most likely, you will hear the phrase “I won’t be offended” from a girl when you tell her that you are going to do something that she won’t like (you won’t go with her to visit her friends or relatives, cancel a date in order to meet with friend, you won’t be able to meet her from work, etc.). Hearing this phrase, guys try to understand whether the girl really won’t be offended, or is she already offended?

The meaning of the phrase. Depending on the situation, the occasion and the person, the phrase “I won’t be offended” can be interpreted as follows:

“I understand everything and I really won’t be offended.”
“I’m a little offended, but I won’t show it to you, because I understand that in these circumstances you cannot do otherwise.”
“I was offended, but I don’t see the point in telling you about it, because you’ll do it your own way anyway.”

Correct answer. So that the girl really doesn’t get offended, especially if due to unforeseen circumstances you had to cancel a date with her or postpone some common affairs, it is better to answer her phrase “I won’t be offended” something like this:

“I’m sorry that the circumstances turned out this way. I’m glad that you understand everything, you’re my best.”

Incorrect answer. Even if the girl really wasn’t offended, she will get angry when she hears the following words in response to her “I won’t be offended”:

"So that's great"
“Yes, I don’t really care”
"Be offended, don't be offended, I won't change my decision"

Girl's phrase "I'll think about it"

If to a question that implies the answer “Yes” or “No”, the girl answers “I’ll think about it,” this is not very pleasant, because you wanted certainty now. Contrary to popular belief, a woman’s “I’ll think about it” does not always mean “No,” and in order to better understand a girl, it is often enough at the moment when she promised to think about it. For example, if a girl looks you straight in the eyes, does not “close” herself from you with crossed arms or foreign objects (purse, papers, etc.), and her posture is quite relaxed, most likely, a little later she will give you the answer to which You are counting.

The meaning of the phrase. When saying “I’ll think about it,” a girl may mean the following:

"I want what you want, but I'll play a little and make you worry."
“I want the same thing as you, but I’m a little afraid, so I need time to convince myself.”
“This is very unexpected and I need time to make a decision.”
“I don’t want what you want, but I also don’t want to upset you with an outright refusal.”
“I don’t want the same thing as you, but I won’t upset you in case I change my mind in the future or need something else from you.”

Correct answer. To persuade a girl to make the decision you want, you can say something like:

“Yes, I understand that such an important decision is difficult to make right away, but I am sure that you are a smart girl, so you will think about everything carefully and make a positive decision.”

Incorrect answer. Do you want the girl’s phrase “I’ll think about it” to definitely mean “No”? Then answer this phrase like this:

“What, is it scary to say “No” to your face?
"Smart people don't have to think long to make a decision"
“Are you trying to turn me off culturally? It won’t work, I know your intentions very well.”
"Eh, I want everything mine ex-girlfriends They said they would think..."

The girl's phrase "What are you thinking about?"

The situation is familiar: you are having a great time on a date, watching a movie together or lying in bed and suddenly your girlfriend looks at you and asks “What are you thinking about?” After this phrase, you will definitely think about what she wants to hear and whether you should tell her that at that very moment you were thinking about your work or say something else.

The meaning of the phrase. When asking “What are you thinking about?”, most often a girl means one of two things:

“You look as if you are completely immersed in yourself and don’t notice me at all. So explain to me what is more important to you at the moment than me?”
“I doubt that you like me and that you feel good with me. I’m afraid that right now you’re thinking about leaving me. Dispel my fears and convince me otherwise!”

Correct answer. By asking this question, the girl, first of all, wants to make sure that you are interested in her and you do not regret that you are now spending time with her, so it is best not to ask the girl “What are you thinking about?” answer something like this:

"About the fact that I feel very good with you now"

Incorrect answer. The girl wants you to think about her, and not about something extraneous, when spending time with her. Therefore, to her question “What are you thinking about?” It's better not to answer:

"About what an incompetent fool my boss is"
"About which bar to go to tomorrow with friends."