Rules for a real girl. Women's etiquette: from appearance to rules of behavior

Someone said a long time ago that there is no such thing as friendship between a man and a woman. A very simple conclusion follows from this: even if they support friendly relations, some subtext of flirting is always present. You shouldn't be afraid of this. It is only necessary to separate understatement and hints from simple communication, if it is not expected that they will soon move to a qualitatively new level. Well, if you really want them to move...
At a minimum, a girl’s behavior should not cause irritation and be pleasant in any environment.

Etiquette for communicating with a guy

Of course, we need to start with the simplest things. A girl should look good. This does not mean at all that she should wear expensive clothes, cosmetics, and perfume. Everything can be very simple, but carefully and tastefully chosen. Well-groomed arms and legs and a hairstyle that suits the overall look are of great importance.
It is equally important to maintain the same harmony in behavior. Active gestures and facial expressions, a loud voice and causing laughter cause rejection and will not help lead to continued meetings.

Modern emancipation should not completely hide from the eyes (and other senses) of a man that a girl needs his guardianship and care. To demonstrate this, trivial techniques from the rules of etiquette that have developed over many centuries are perfect.

1. When approaching a chair near the table before dinner, you need to look back at it. This is enough for the man to help him sit up.
2. When overcoming any obstacle, a man can (and should) offer his hand, otherwise he may be embarrassed to offer his hand first and end up in an ambiguous position (did not help).
3. If a girl accidentally witnesses a meeting between her companion and her acquaintances, she should not strive to take an active part in the conversation; a kind greeting and reserved attention are sufficient.

Etiquette with a guy

When communicating with a man, you should demonstrate your interest in him. A girl shouldn’t talk incessantly “to keep the conversation going.” A more favorable impression will be formed about her if, when asking suggestive questions, will provide an opportunity for your interlocutor to speak. This simplifies further communication and is good example in etiquette of behavior with a young man.

• If a girl is invited to a restaurant and asked to choose a treat according to her own taste, she should choose something from the middle price range: the cheapest dish will demonstrate that she is shy, the most expensive will demonstrate her tactlessness (suddenly her companion has a limited budget). You shouldn’t run around every 15 minutes to “powder your nose” and chat on the phone.
• Driving in a car requires certain skills. If a girl is with a stranger, you need to wait until he opens the door for her (it’s great if even an old friend doesn’t forget about this). This way she won’t make a mistake with the place where she has to go. When getting into the car, you need to carefully lower yourself onto the edge of the seat, and then move your legs inside. When exiting, it is also better to first, turn slightly, place your feet on the ground, and then stand up.

What behavior of girls do guys like?

Finally, how to behave with a guy who has attracted your attention and likes him, with whom the girl would not mind continuing to get acquainted?
First of all, the girl establishes a distance. If she allows herself or the guy to violate her, then sympathy has arisen. This can be clearly demonstrated by occasional light touches (no one has canceled “talking” glances).

On an intuitive level, if a man sees a girl constantly touching her hair and wrists, he understands that he has found his heart.

Many people forget about such seemingly simple truths, and then they are surprised for a long time that the man whom she really liked at the first meeting, and whom the girl would not mind getting to know better, suddenly disappeared. Do not push away the one who can become your only one with small carelessnesses and adhere to etiquette not only for getting to know each other and getting closer, but also in everyday life.

The basis of female etiquette is the principle: a woman should never forget that she is a representative of the fair sex. A real lady always has an impeccable appearance, her own style of dressing, and uses cosmetics wisely and professionally.

Olga Belmach, STV presenter:
There is one folk wisdom that they greet a woman based on her clothes, but turn her away based on her manners. Therefore, let's start with clothes and end with the rules of behavior.
The first rule in clothing. It is worth remembering that there are seasons (summer, winter) and there are times of day (morning, evening). Clothing here will vary dramatically. For winter it will be denser and darker, for summer it will be lighter and lighter. The same goes for morning and evening. In the morning we dress much simpler and less flashy, but in the evening, and only in the evening, sparkles are acceptable. By the way, if you have done a manicure, for example, with sparkles, then it is only acceptable for the evening. The next day in the morning you must definitely get rid of these sparkles.

According to etiquette, a woman cannot appear at work or at a formal evening without tights or stockings. Light-colored tights are more versatile, but legs look slimmer in black. If you are not sure about the right choice, wear flesh-colored tights. As a rule, they go with any clothes.

Olga Belmach, STV presenter:
Remember that low necklines, very short skirts, and especially both together are unacceptable at work. Very tight and transparent clothing is not acceptable. Knitwear and denim are not very appropriate for work, even if a chic evening dress is made from it. Leather clothing is unacceptable, especially skirts and trousers.
And I would like to mention a separate aspect (it’s not very convenient to talk about, but it’s even more inconvenient to see): your underwear should not be visible from under your clothes. This is especially true for trousers.

A suit is universal business and casual clothing. It is better to select accessories for it depending on the woman’s character: for flirtatious and cheerful ladies - fewer ruffles, flounces, and colorful patterns. But discreet women are more suitable for soft rounded collars, small folds and ruffles on blouses, as well as elegant shoes, reported the “Big Breakfast” program on STV.

Olga Belmach, STV presenter:
We will not talk about the fact that shoes should be polished, of good quality, of high quality. The main requirement is not to allow yourself to take off your shoes in the summer. Even in 30-degree heat, your sock should always be covered. The most you can do is bare your heel. But remember that even a real woman should be beautiful.

A woman should not wear a lot of jewelry, especially during the day. Of course, evening wear means jewelry, but try not to look like a Christmas tree.

Olga Belmach, STV presenter:
One person can wear three colors. In extreme cases, four are acceptable, and in no case more. This rule, by the way, helps to brighten up our lives. Try not to wear one monotonous color. Color the blue and gray colors, for example, with bright red on the chest or in the hair, where this is permissible, based on the situation.

What does an elegant woman look like from the outside? Good posture: gently dropped shoulders, straight back, slightly tucked in stomach. Legs straight at the knees, but without tension. Arms slightly bent at the elbows and the chin raised, but not “lifted” up.

Olga Belmach, STV presenter:
According to the rules of etiquette, you cannot cross your legs, you cannot carry your hands in your pockets and you cannot be late. Even on a date. Of course, you can allow yourself 15 minutes, but etiquette does not approve of you even in this case. And if we are talking about a business date, then under no circumstances, it is better to come in advance.
Real woman does not swear, especially obscenely, does not chew gum and does not brush his teeth with a toothpick. This is done strictly in the ladies' room.
Moreover, in front of other people you should not powder yourself, comb your hair, or wear perfume. There is also a specially designated ladies' room for this purpose.

A woman's manners should not be provocative. When talking, you should not exaggerate your facial expressions, laugh too loudly, or feign indifference to everyone and everything. In short, a lady should be natural and feel at ease.

Olga Belmach, STV presenter:
When going somewhere in the world, remember that a woman may not introduce her companion to others. It is assumed that he may not be up to her level. But, by the way, it is under no circumstances acceptable for a man not to introduce his companion. This is extremely indecent.
As for representation, it begins with those who are lower in rank. The youngest are introduced first and only then the oldest are introduced.
Also, according to the rules of etiquette, husband and wife do not sit next to each other at the table. They don't even sit opposite each other. As a rule, quite distant places are provided for them. But at the same time, the wife does not have the right to flirt in the presence of her husband.

When communicating with a man, a woman should not talk much. You should not focus on your troubles, financial difficulties, love failures. However, you shouldn’t remain silent either - this will put your interlocutor in an awkward position, as reported in the “Big Breakfast” program on STV.

Olga Belmach, STV presenter:
And remember that a woman creates a holiday not only when going out in public, but also at home. That is why she is not allowed to walk around the house in a robe or pajamas. For breakfast, she must not only change clothes, but also get herself in order.
Another “household” rule for women, because they are the ones who, as a rule, break this rule: women are not allowed to read SMS and diaries of either their own husband or their own children.
And I would like to end with the words of Audrey Hepburn’s heroine: “Remember that good manners Even a street girl can be turned into a real lady.”

State Budgetary Educational Institution of the Moscow Region for orphans and children left behind

without parental care "Transfiguration"

Rules

"Etiquette for girls"

Prepared by:

Educator

Zhuravleva E.I.

2016

You can be anything you want: correct, protesting, modest, loud, obedient, rebel, smart, hooligan, dandelion girl or scandal girl; you can listen to whatever music you want and follow whatever principles you want; You can even set rules for yourself and break them yourself. But in any case, it won’t hurt to have an idea of ​​what rudeness, bad manners and bad manners are. And not because the world has gone crazy. But because it is becoming fashionable to observe etiquette.
1.Hello!
FIRST RULE OF GREETING
You can greet in different ways: with a kiss, a handshake, or just kind words. The main thing is that the greeting is “heard” only by the person to whom it is directly addressed, and not by everyone around. Therefore, avoid deliberately loud greetings, long hugs and hot kisses.
RULE TWO
When greeting verbally, boys greet us first, and we are charged with greeting older people first. If on the street, while walking with your boyfriend, you meet a girlfriend who is walking her boyfriend, then first you greet your girlfriend, then your boyfriends greet each other, and only then should you say “hello” to the boys.
RULE THREE
A long pause during a meeting looks very awkward. Don’t be afraid to say hello first and follow the aphorism in such situations: the one who is better mannered says hello first.
2. Street etiquette
WALK
In ancient times, when men carried a sword on the left, a tradition developed: the young lady walks to the right of the knight. Then another rule appeared - a man must walk where it is more dangerous (for example, from the side of the roadway). Modern etiquette says: the girl goes on the right on official occasions, and on ordinary life you don't have to bother. Shamelessly loading your boyfriend with heavy bags is normal, but under no circumstances should you give him a handbag.
ROADSIDE PICNIC
Eating ice cream on the street is not a sin, but to do this you need to step aside, or even better, sit on a park bench (by the way, it’s much more convenient). But entering public transport with food, bitten hot dogs and open bottles is extremely indecent. By the way, in Singapore, until recently, even chewing gum was prohibited on the street.
RAIN PISTOLS
If you open an umbrella, make sure that it does not touch other people. According to etiquette, in rainy weather the young man holds an umbrella over the girl’s head if they are the same height or he is slightly taller than her. If the difference in height is large, everyone carries their own umbrella. Or a young man walks without an umbrella :) If you enter a room after rain, put a cover on your umbrella, yes
and in general, try to keep the umbrella closer to you so as not to wet someone.
3. By clothes
The main requirement for clothing is its cleanliness. It’s also a good idea, of course, to make sure that the clothing matches the place, time, and nature of the event.
When in doubt, it is always better to choose a slightly more conservative option.
You can only clean yourself up at home or in the “girls’ room.” Comb your hair, clean your nails, straighten your clothes in public places, at the table, on the street - not comme il faut. Well, maybe just touch up your lips.
4. In da house
YOU ARE GOING TO VISIT
They are waiting for you at exactly the appointed hour, the kettle is puffing on the stove, the sandwiches are getting cold on the table. Despite the fact that it is generally accepted that “correct” guests are always a little late, the rules of etiquette strictly prohibit this. After greeting the guests, you should not conduct a thorough examination of whether there is a lot of dust on the piano or how long ago the dried ficus tree was watered. Girls with manners should not look closely at everything;)
Don't look at your watch often while visiting. If you need to leave before other guests begin to leave, do it without the others noticing, after apologizing to the hosts.
GUESTS ARE COMING TO YOU
Think everything through carefully in advance. The main rule is that guests are invited to the table no later than half an hour after the start of the party, even if not everyone has gathered yet. Keep in mind that even despite severe attacks of hunger, it is impolite for the hostess to pounce on food and eat everything first. Guests must finish eating first.
5 Your entertainment
MOVIE
It’s stupid to be late, because if this happens, the well-mannered young lady will have to sit in the first available seats, even if you have the most expensive tickets in your pocket. We hope there is no need to remind you that before entering the hall you need to turn off your mobile phone? It is also forbidden to laugh loudly, throw popcorn, rustle chocolate candy wrappers, and discuss the merits and demerits of the main character in front of the whole room.
RESTAURANT
A young man should always enter a restaurant, cafe and other similar establishments first, and you should follow him. Having sat down at the table, he should hand you the menu and offer you to choose first. Then he looks at the menu himself and orders the waiter himself for both of you.
Start eating when everyone's order is served. Only if those waiting in the wings themselves invite you to start eating, can you start chewing before others.
Blowing on food, sniffing it, smacking it, and placing your elbows on the table are not encouraged. The biggest mistake, worse than which can only be picking your teeth with a fork, is eating with a knife. The entire tablespoon is not put into the mouth. To eat the leftover soup painlessly, you need to tilt the edge of the plate not towards you, but away from you. If you find yourself in an awkward situation, accidentally spill or drop something (this doesn’t happen to anyone), don’t immediately rush to correct your mistake. Wipe the tablecloth only with a napkin, and do not sweep the crumbs onto the floor, but collect them in the napkin. If pieces of food or drops accidentally fall on your clothes, remove them discreetly.
In a restaurant, many people are confused by the abundance of cutlery. Do you remember the reaction of Julia Roberts' character in Pretty Woman? In fact, the basic principle here is quite simple: always start with those utensils that are closest to the plate, and for each subsequent dish, use the utensil that is closest. When the utensils lie horizontally above the plate, they are intended for dessert. It’s easier with glasses - the waiter himself will pour it where it’s needed. Take them from right to left, since they are only on one side of the table. There is no need to warm your hands on the glasses, tightly grasp a cup of coffee or tea with both hands, and it is customary to hold glasses of champagne and wine by the stem. Why, you ask? And so that the drink does not lose the ideal temperature faster than necessary. After finishing eating, place the knife and fork parallel. During a break, the knife and fork are placed crosswise. In cafes, a used tea bag is usually placed on a saucer. And when stirring the sugar with a spoon, do not touch the edges of the cup so that there is no sound.
If after lunch you decide to freshen your already light girlish breath with chewing gum, then know that before throwing away the annoying lump, it is better to pack it in a piece of paper napkin or paper. And don’t try to stick chewing gum under the table, under the chair, under the bench, or throw it in the ashtray.
The bill is usually paid by the person who invited. The waiter will bring the bill to the person who ordered. The invoice is submitted so that the amount is not visible. If you pay, celebrating, for example, some holiday with friends, there is no need to demonstrate how much was spent on them. When invited, avoid two extremes: ordering the most expensive dishes and showing excessive modesty.
6. Hard gestures
Imagine what would happen if you wave your arms while walking, fussily adjust something in your clothes or hairstyle, often lift up your sleeves to look at your watch, constantly take something out of your bags and pockets and put it back in? Not beauty.
7. You're at the stadium
So, he succeeded. I mean drag you to a football match. Of course, it’s your direct duty to cheer on your favorite team or player, but it’s not worth it to shout heart-rendingly and shout insults at the playing teams and any of the fans (from an altercation to a brawl). If possible, do not jump up during critical moments of the game, so as not to disturb those sitting behind you. Every game and competition is a kind of art, and true connoisseurs gather to watch them. Are you one of them?
8. You and shopping
The seller is the face of the store. Say hello as you enter a small store (you don't need to do this in a supermarket).
If you plan to become a regular customer of a small store, such as a bakery in your home, it is appropriate to get acquainted. Be friendly, but not intrusive. It would be good to outline in advance what and how much you need (if there is a large list, it is best to make a list) so as not to waste time from other buyers and the seller. You can only address the seller using “you”, regardless of her or his age. It looks ridiculous and tactless to call “girl” to an elderly woman salesperson (it could be interpreted as ridicule, isn’t that what you meant?). You don't have to make purchases just because you came to the store, you don't have to feel awkward if nothing you tried on didn't fit. But still, you shouldn’t spend hours trying on, driving the seller back and forth and forcing him to bring this one thing or that, no matter how cool it may be. When refusing a purchase, say “thank you” to the seller for his attention.

AND FINALLY – SMILE, ALWAYS AND TO EVERYONE – YOU CAN’T MISTAKE A MISTAKE!